What It's REALLY About

In the midst of all the wedding planning, it's easy to get caught up and forget what this whole time is about - James and I are getting married and starting a life together, it's not just a big party.  Don't get me wrong, it will be a big party, but that's not the most important part.  The past few days have really reinforced the life part.  James's grandfather passed away.  He was buried and his life celebrated yesterday.  I am lucky enough to already feel like a part of the Barr family.  His parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles/cousins - everyone - have been so welcoming and loving.  Much of this is because of the example set by Roy Barr, Grampy.  He was interested in everyone he met and valued the good in all people.  I loved the opportunity to get to know him and I know he is excited for our marriage.  (And I know he will be there with my grandparents, watching over and blessing the event.)  James and I hope to follow in the example that he and Grammy set - married for 58 years and dedicated to what really matters - love, family, education, travel, and knowledge.  I feel blessed to not only welcome James into my family but also to be a part of his.  I think of stories people tell about their terrible in-laws and feel so fortunate that that will never be the case for James and me.  Thank you to be Barr and McElfresh families for loving me and for so completely welcoming me into your families.  To my family, thank you for loving and welcoming James.